We’ve been so many places and done many things together in this past year. A year, really? Ya, it seems like we’ve known each other for decades not just 12 mere months.
Elizabeth Jordan Carr/Comeau and I met online through Facebook on or around Halloween last year after I had commented on a Back on My Feet thread that my friend at the time Jess had started. We chatted every once and awhile about whatever and nothing at all and I seemed to always know how to get her to spit her coffee out because she was laughing so hard at whatever I had said.
On Thanksgiving I went to Davis Square for a 5k of which I photographed many peoples epic struggles to PR or just cross the finish before Turkey,Gravy and Pumpkin Pies! Also turns out the T didn’t run from Harvard Square all day so i had to walk from said T stop to Dorchester, one boot filled step at a time. But, I had an angel to get me the sum 9 point something miles home, it was Elizabeth who talked with me every footfall of the way! She asked me questions, listened intently to my answers and just took my mind off the sheer length of the walk ahead. One question she asked that I will never forget was, “If you could be anywhere right now where would you be?”. My answer went something like this, “I would be right here talking with you answering these ridiculous questions!”.
After that experience I was totally looking forward to meeting her in person. We had made tentative plans to meet at Summit Ave in Brookline,MA at the November Project workout (running hills) 6:30 am Friday where we were to be joined by stand out Marathoner Shalane Flannigan, to eat some of those hills together for breakfast with the rest of the tribe. I was walking up the hill and there she was as pleasant as punch and she said ” I thought that was you! “. We ran hills,exchanged hugs and went on our merry ways as she is a mom to a wonderful youngster we shall call littleman.
I went to breakfast with the tribe and made my way home to Dorchester and while there I remembered she had said that she had wanted to meet for coffee, in which case I messaged her to see if she was still interested and she was.
We met in Harvard Square at Crema’ a coffee shop right in the heart of the square around 1 pm, she had already ordered coffee and for some reason was given a free piece of Banana bread as well… Which I was more than happy to devour. For some reason I did not order a coffee, turns out I didn’t need it because the conversation was way more energizing than a cup of coffee could ever be!
One minute led to 3 hours! 3 hours of stimulating,spiritually sound conversation of epic proportion! It turns out she wanted to know everything about me. Every time I answered one of her questions openly, honestly and fearlessly she led with another, and another, and another! I am not sure how many questions I got to lob at her but my guess is not even close to as many as I got to answer from her. We were so lost in the conversation that before we knew it, it was time to say good bye. Little did I know it was just so long!
For the next month we continued to correspond through Facebook Messenger, I usually voice messaged her because it does two things well, one makes it so I don’t misspell anything and it let her here my voice too.
We had been discussing that Littleman was going to be staying in Massachusetts when she went back to Bethlehem and I just knew that it was going to be tough on her so I offered to drive back with her so she wouldn’t feel to alone! A few friends were going to spend her birthday with her so I knew that if I needed a lift back I could most likely get one home to Dorchester after the weekends fun. She picked me up at my brothers in Hopkington, So whether she was prepared or not she met my family. Or at least my mom and my brothers family as my sister and her girlfriend weren’t there.
I’m not sure I really knew what was in store for me, but I knew she was worth me sacrificing my own time to make sure her journey back was better than ok!
My Nana Mary who had passed that past February had been laid to rest not to far from Bethlehem off I 84 in Moscow, PA. So I asked if she would mind if we stopped so I could pay my respects to her and she was more than happy to as it kept us out of NYC as well! We got the address from my mom and put it in the GPS, said our good byes and off we went just me, Elizabeth and Chase the Beagle, Foxhound mix that Elizabeth had rescued while she was a reporter in Maine not to many years ago.
What was supposed to take 5 hours seemed to only take minutes as we talked,laughed and listened to good music all along the way. When we got to the Manger it seemed like we had been destined to live,laugh and learn together from that moment on! Somewhere, somehow it came up about me staying awhile and the way she helped me to feel about myself and with her helped me realize this could be something more like forever it seemed!
So much has happened, we visited Disney, ran a 10k and half marathon that made us get up at the crack to run them, got trapped in Orlando for days,flew to NJ and took a car the rest of the way back to Bethlehem.
We have eaten at diners, moved to Pawtucket, sold books at the Boston Marathon Expo for Runnersworld,Elizabeth ran the Boston Marathon with a 6 minute PR in the cold rain too.
We have taken littleman to the zoo,to the pool,and got him swim lessons too. Had to move lofts in our complex because of climate control problems. Dealt with mice and a long drive to get him to school every other week.
We have sold my art work at the Providence Flea and at Savin Kitchen too. We have raised money and awareness for mental health and wellness of which I am a survivor! We have also walked for hope with Resolve and Ovascience to raise awareness for IVF!
We have vacationed with her parents and littleman in Bar Harbor Maine, it is a long drive but so worth the miles traveled. He got Strep throat and we spent time in the ER oh and he threw up on me too! All in all a great trip!
We came up with a coffee table book of my photography of Boston that has been a hit and a line of T-shirts and hats with my photography logo too.
I could go on forever because we just do things to keep our journey together moving forward seamlessly one small step at a time!
Today Elizabeth became divorced legally and Thursday we sign on the line for our new home, along the way we got a new car and a new life together too.
We are blessed deeply and love sharing it with all of you! I hope you enjoy what our love means to each other and try to bring some of what we share into your lives too.